Yesterday, I left Paul and Nathan at home when I went to church because Paul was sick and I was worried that although Nathan was not sick and showing no symptoms, he could be incubating the illness and possibly be infectious.

I thought that was the proper thing to do. I didn’t want to risk getting other children sick or any elderly people.

So after the service, I popped my head into the nursery where I normally take Nathan (can you imagine that? My head just magically popping into existence out of thin air?) to say hello to the lady who runs the nursery. She’s such a sweetheart and really likes Nathan. I told her that although Nathan wasn’t sick, Paul and I had been pretty sick with a stomach bug and I didn’t want to risk bringing him to church and getting anyone else sick since you can sometimes be contagious before you show symptoms. I know that’s the case with the flu, anyway. So she told me she appreciated my thoughtfulness and then mentioned that it was a good thing I didn’t bring Nathan anyway because one of the boys there had a really sore throat and was very sick.

I looked at the little boy she was referring to, and he was as pale as a sheet and the poor little guy just looked completely miserable.

I was a little stunned. And offended. Not at her, but at the parents who brought their SICK CHILD TO CHURCH.

Why? WHY? WHY would you bring an actively sick child to church? I’m having problems wrapping my head around that. Seriously, it takes a deep level of self-centerednessto do that. You have to be so focused on what YOU want that you completely disregard the health and wellbeing of others. I was (and obviously still am) pretty mad about that. I think it’s unacceptable to subject other children (who, as we all know, don’t have great immune systems) to a very sick child’s illness. It’s pretty screwed up that some people are so self-absorbed that they cannot see that the universe doesn’t revolve around them and that their actions have an impact on others. I mean, runny noses are one thing (and unavoidable with kids), but a REALLY SICK KID with a sore throat? That is completely unacceptable.

Seriously. I can’t believe people actually think it’s ok to do this. I think it’s so rude, thoughtless, and disrespectful.



  1. I wonder whether because ‘church” people tend to be kinder and more generous which in turn encourages bad behaviors such as this? “She won’t mind. She’s so nice.” Free babysitting service? I am more concerned about the baby if he’s really that sick. Do these parents get some points for being such devout Christians?! 😉

    • I’ve wondered the same things. I was really worried about the little boy… you could tell just by looking at him that he was very sick. I normally keep my nose in my own business, but I couldn’t help but think that the boy should have been at home in bed. Maybe the people who brought him to church were new because I had never seen the little boy before. Everyone I have met there (so far) seems to be really good people… not the type who would bring a very sick (and contagious!) child to church with them!

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