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A Key to Sids Found
Feb 12th
Scientists think they’ve finally found a tangible link to SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome)… and that link is Serotonin levels in the brain. (Click here to read the article.) Hopefully, this new lead will help doctors and scientists develop screening tests for newborns to assess who is at a higher risk of SIDS.
I worried incessantly about Nathan when he slept. I was constantly getting up and checking on him, making sure he was still breathing. I was so scared something would happen to the little guy. So we took all the precautions we could… no soft bedding or blankets, put him to sleep on his back, turned on a fan for air circulation, tried using a pacifier at night, and we kept the room between 65-70 degrees as recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics.
But still. You never know.
Now that Nathan is approaching his one year birthday (can you believe it? A YEAR OLD!!) I feel much better now that his risk of dying from SIDS has drastically declined. But then there are always other things to worry about. Especially when I have to drive him somewhere. I’m a good driver, but it’s other people that worry me.
Especially those of you who text and drive, which I wrote about in this post. Speaking of which, have you heard about Oprah’s No Phone Zone campaign? You should check it out and sign the pledge… click here to do so.
I try to take each day as it comes and not let life’s “what if’s” burden me too much. We only live once. And I don’t want to spend my life worrying about what I cannot control.
Unassisted Births
Dec 9th
Forget the OB/GYN.
Forget the midwife.
More and more women are choosing to take part in unassisted births… having a baby without the help of a trained professional such as an OB/GYN or a midwife. Not because of an emergency, but because that’s what the mother chooses ahead of time.
Would I ever have an unassisted birth? No. Never. Mostly because I would be scared to death that there would be an unforeseen medical emergency and no doctor or midwife around to help. What if the baby gets stuck? What if there is extensive damage? What if the baby doesn’t start breathing? What if the cord is wrapped around the baby’s neck? All these questions would be floating around in my head, driving me insane.
No, I could never personally do it.
I’m not even sure how I feel about other women having these types of births. I totally understand WHY they would want to… the belief that birth is a normal function and not a medical emergency, the belief that birth is a private matter, believing that medical interventions cause more harm than good, being able to birth the baby according to what your body desires and not what a doctor dictates. A lot of these women simply want a home birth, but many states don’t allow doctors or midwives to attend home births. So instead, they choose to give birth at home anyway, without medical help.
Proponents of unassisted births believe it’s empowering. I’m sure that it is.
However, I just don’t think personal empowerment is worth the risk to not only my life, but my unborn baby’s life as well.
Below is a link to an interesting MSNBC article about one woman’s journey:
Man Knowingly Spread HIV
Oct 29th
Sometimes, when I actually have the time, I’ll watch an episode of Oprah. I have the DVR set up to record the show, then I go through and hand-pick the ones that seem interesting to me. Yesterday I watched an episode about a Texas man who was infected with HIV and intentionally spread the virus to multiple women. KNOWINGLY. Five women swallowed their fear and shame and came onto the Oprah show to tell their stories.
It was heart-wrenching.
All five of these women were recently divorced after long marriages (10 years, 20 years, 25 years.) All were new on the dating scene. All were naive and trusting. And they were all sentenced to death by a man wielding HIV-infected blood in his veins.
And he knew he was HIV positive the entire time he was with these women.
These women weren’t promiscuous. In fact, almost all of them had been in a long-term relationship with the man, whose name is Philippe Padieu, a 53-year old Martial Arts instructor. They were all unaware that he was cheating on each of them with multiple other women.
It had been established that he was aware of his HIV status since 2005. These women were all involved with him after 2005, and they said that he assured each and every one of them that he had been tested and was HIV-free, insisting that using protection was completely unnecessary.
One of the women found out she was HIV-positive at a routine gynecologist appointment. She immediately called Padieu, but he ignored her calls and messages. She had suspicions, however, that he had been cheating on her. Since she was paying Padieu’s cell phone bill, she combed through his phone record and called numbers she did not recognize, contacting the other women he was cheating on her with. She told them he had infected her with the HIV virus and urged them to get tested as well.
They all tested positive.
The women banded together, five of them later to appear on the Oprah show I watched, and started watching his house, curious about how many other women he was seeing. They were dumbstruck at the amount of different vehicles and various women who continued to come and go. Together, they decided to stand up to Padieu so they called the police since he knew he had HIV and was still having unprotected sex with multiple women. Finally, the CDC issued a Cease and Desist order for him to immediately stop having unprotected sex and to disclose his HIV status to potential partners.
These women said that he still continued to have more female guests come and go from his house.
Finally, he was arrested and the courts found him guilty of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon, his HIV-tainted blood being the deadly weapon, and sentenced him to 45 years in prison.
If you ask me, that’s not enough. I’m not always all for capital punishment, but in this instance, I believe this man should be given the death penalty. Multiple women are now sentenced to death. Their lives will never be the same. Who knows how many other women were infected and who could have already died, never knowing they had HIV. And the people they unknowingly infected. And so on…
People like him make me sick. They do not deserve to enjoy life after INTENTIONALLY shattering the lives of hundreds people. Not only did he give his victims a death sentence, but the families and children of those women are also affected. He knowingly infected these women with HIV, fully aware that it would eventually kill them. That’s a serial killer in my book.
Yeah, I think 45 years was too light of a sentence. He should have been charged and found guilty of murder- or at the very least, attempted murder.
Here is a link to an ABC news article concerning Philippe Padieu:
Texan Gets 45 Years in Prison for Spreading HIV
Children Denied Insurance for Being “Too Fat” or “Too Skinny”
Oct 21st
Recently, an insurance company called Rocky Mountain Health in Colorado denied a four-month-old baby insurance because he was obese, which the insurance company claimed was a preexisting condition. You can read more about it below.
Fat Baby Initially Denied Health Insurance
And just when I thought that was icing on the cake, I read THIS article: Toddler Denied Health Insurance for Being Too Small.
What’s up with health insurance denying coverage to children due to their weight? For God’s sake, they are CHILDREN! How can a CHILD being “too fat” or “too small” possibly be a pre-existing condition? Me personally, I think it’s ludicrous and such insurance companies should be penalized and fined. ALL children should be allowed to have health insurance, regardless of weight!
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