Comments on: Stay at Home Moms vs Working Moms

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 19:10:15 +0000

For real!! Now that I have a baby, I see first hand how mean and vicious some moms can be to other moms. It’s like they think that THEIR decisions are the only RIGHT decicions for EVERYone. They don’t seem to realize that every baby is different, as well as every family and what works for some people doesn’t work for others. It’s nuts how people gets so riled up over OTHER people’s decisions!

By: karrey

karrey — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 14:44:18 +0000

I am so thankful that i can stay at home with Anna.It does work for me and my family,but it might not always.When that time comes,I will go out and see what job I can do and do it.It’s really cut and dry to me,do what you can-when you can.Unless someone offers to pay our bills for us,I don’t pay any attention to a voice in the crowd.Moms can be so vicious to one to another,and its truly unnecessary.I mean,on cafemom,the debates about boob vs formula,sahm vs working,religion… there are so many issues on these topics.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 01:11:45 +0000

You are absolutely right; there is so much pressure for women to do it all. And it’s a double standard… Like you, I’ve noticed that stay-at-home dads are not belittled for staying at home with the kid(s). Nor are the dads belittled for going to work… or if the house is messy.

Yes, our childcare system is in need of serious reform. There are so many unscrupulous daycare centers with little to no training. Then again, there are definitely some wonderful, amazing childcare centers out there who love thier jobs and the kids. We need more of those!!

By: Falling

Falling — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 23:30:10 +0000

There’s been a lot written about this by people far more eloquent than I, but I do think a lot of it comes from the fact that there’s all this pressure on women to be everything for everyone. The sad reality is, when my husband stays home with our baby, no one berates him for “not living up to his potential.” Granted, he’s an actor, but still…

Also, as a former child care worker, I can say that our child care system needs some major overhauls, starting with increasing the training and pay for child care workers and decreasing the cost of quality child care for all. But then, I’m a pinko commie when it comes to stuff like that.
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